Esther Perel's Book Recommendations

The Anatomy of Love

by Helen Fisher

"Helen Fisher was a force of nature—her work on the brain circuitry of love was both scientifically rigorous and poetically profound. When I was getting ready to publish my first book, Mating in Captivity, I faced resistance over the title. I knew it was the right name—that it captured the essence of the book—so I called Helen to discuss it. But she had no time for discussion. Her response was immediate and fierce: “You must fight for your title. This is your book.” She gave me the confidence I lacked. Emboldened by her rallying cry, I stood my ground and got my title. Helen boosted me and I’ve never forgotten that moment. Over the years, our paths crossed many times. She was not just a colleague but a guiding light, someone who validated my clinical observations with her empirical research. Her book, The Anatomy of Love, remains a must-read, and the conversations we had, including the one we had on stage at TED, "Technology hasn't changed love. Here's why," are moments I will always cherish. Helen, your wisdom, grit, and vitality will continue to inspire me, and so many others, long after your passing. What you did for me I have now done for a few other authors—and each time, I tell them our story. Rest in peace, dear friend."

The Art of Gathering

by Priya Parker

"At a time when we need to come together more than ever, @priyaparker has written a powerful tool for connection. The Art of Gathering is a great book. Learn more: https://t.co/gzmhXdfJQA"

The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships

by Neil Strauss

"On our exploration of understanding the modern man, we're recommending this book by @neilstrauss. / https://www.amazon.com/Truth-Uncomfortable-Book-About-Relationships/dp/0060898763"

Come As You Are

by Emily Nagoski

"@emilynagoski's book Come As You Are, is an essential exploration of women's sexuality. Must read for my sons. / https://t.co/Kp2Ule8jKV"